Ask Amy: A toy kitchen brings up stereotype questions

Parents question gift-giving to their three-year-old daughter
The parents of a three-year-old girl who loves playing with a miniature kitchen set have reached out to advice columnist Amy Dickinson, also known as “Ask Amy,” for some guidance. The parents are considering getting a version of this toy for their daughter for Christmas, but the wife’s sister strongly disapproves due to concerns that this type of toy reinforces gender stereotypes. The parents, feeling conflicted, sought Ask Amy’s opinion on the matter.
Amy expressed that while many parents are concerned about gender stereotypes, it’s important not to deny their child the joy and learning experience of playing with something they love based on stereotypes alone. She suggests that children should be encouraged to play with toys and have experiences typically associated with any gender, ultimately leaving the decision up to the child. Amy also advised that the boundary should be drawn around toys that encourage violence or mimic weaponry.
Amy also addressed a reader’s query about family conflict over a deceased parent’s belongings and a reader’s reflection on feelings toward having videos and photos taken.
Amy’s advice column is syndicated and reaches a wide audience, providing helpful guidance and insight on various topics.